Monday, June 06, 2005

Love n marriage

Look into my eyes
you will see, what you mean to me
Search your heart, search your soul
And when you find me there, you'll search no more




These are the opening lines of a famous Bryan Adams Song. I really don’t know how much he meant it. How many people are very sure what exactly they want from their soul mate. Or rather, Can anyone define the characteristics that will make someone their soul mate? A friend of mine said, it’s just a feeling u get when u see her. I somehow couldn’t agree with him.
I have two cases of my friends to analyze it for myself. First is a classmate, with whom I stayed for 3 years in close quarters. I know him very well to maintain distance. Quite short tempered, enthu, and career-oriented guy who leave nothing spared in getting what he wanted. We hardly have anything in common other that the birth month. Such a guy, after falling in love, changed considerably. He underwent a lot and made some sacrifices and finally got married. His marriage was quite a relief to most of us. But there is some lesson, which I am missing. For, this full exercise looks absurd to me.
Another Guy is a best friend of mine whom I least expected to fall for a girl. But his was a different case. I knew when he used to run behind her during college days, but it was just a flirting instinct. Later she came back to his life and more due to circumstances he was forced to propose to her. Yet things didn’t work out since their parents and horoscope didn’t agree, so both parted as friends.

So what is the concept of finding and getting the soulmate. Is there only one soulmate. Or there many and u choose the best according to ur wish and time? If the second friend thought his girl as soulmate why did he leave her? If he thought otherwise, why did he propose? I really don’t know. But I am trying to find the answer to these questions. If I need to look for a girl, do I need to choose the first one who meets some minimal criteria out of all my criteria or do I need to wait to find the best one. This question was eating me for a week. Today while typing my feeling on this blog, I got this forward. Its definitely not my feelings nor an answer to my question, but since it is appropriate to mine doubts I am posting it here …

Soul mate . .

Once upon a time, there was a teacher and his student. One day they
were lying down under a big tree on a grassy plain. Then, suddenly,
the student asked the teacher, Teacher, I'm confused, how can I find
my soul-mate..? Can you please help me..?

Teacher : Silent for few seconds, then he answered, well; it's a pretty
hard and easy question.
Student : (Thinking hard) Huh???
Teacher : Look that way, there's a lot of grass there, why don't you walk
there, but please never walk backward, just walk straight ahead.
On your way, try to find a beautiful blade of grass and pick it up,
then give it to me. But just ONE blade of grass!
Student : Well, ok then.. wait for me.. walked straight ahead on the grass field.


A few minutes later..

Student : I'm back.
Teacher : Erm, well I don't see any beautiful blade of grass in your hand.
Student : On my journey, I found a few beautiful blades of grass, but each
time I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up.
But I didn't realize that I'm at the end of the field, and I hadn't picked
up any. 'Cause you told me not to go back, so I didn't go back.
Teacher : That's what happens in real life..


What is the message of this story..?
In looking for your soul mate, please don't always compare and Hope that there
will be a better one. By doing that, you'll waste your lifetime, 'coz remember
Time Never Goes Back".

It applies similarly in finding your ideal life partner, your suitable, career or business
opportunity..

Therefore the morale is :
LOVE & GRAB HOLD of the opportunity that you have. Don't waste time now - Go & get it now .
. .


As I said, I am not totally convinced of the above. But I am forcing myself to believe it. I feel it will be a compromising life in either case. So I can sing

I don't care who you are
Where you're from
What you did
As long as you love me

2 comments:

saka said...

Hey I am Sorry ,
It didnot mean that exactly ...
Its something wrt ur temper :-)

really sorry da. Just today(aug 29 05) i saw ur comments ....

Anonymous said...

Good original post, only one advice from the "other friend"...U cant always get what u want in life, but u can always want what u get in life...every moment, every time!!